Stopping was never something I would have considered, until it was forced upon me.
For years I have worked in leadership roles, driving commercial growth and operational efficiencies, primarily within the global retail space; building brands from the ground up, whilst living and working in international markets. More recently, since moving back to the UK, I have supported the scaling growth of various small medium enterprises and two tech start-ups. At the end of last year, I found myself made redundant.
I would have described my career as bold, creative, ambitious, brave, empowering, rewarding, and extraordinary, yet I was not feeling any of the above, in fact quite the opposite, until I met Katy.
When we met for my initial consultation, I described my situation as a “roundabout” I recognised the path I was on was the wrong one and I needed to urgently find a new way forward, yet I had no idea which road would bring me the right result. I had friends, family and colleagues all making suggestions about what I should do next, yet still I felt so terribly stuck and unsure, with little in the way of motivation, imagination, or drive.
Katy quickly recognised that the two biggest questions were how I ended up here and what did I really mean by the right result?
And so, we began…
Katy brought an immediate sense of calm into my life from the structure and leadership she brought to our coaching. I no longer needed to take the lead; it was my time to follow, and what a wonderful feeling that was. I really looked forward to our sessions as I felt instant transformation. Katy’s questions uncovered key issues and as she repeated back what she heard, my thinking was challenged and in turn my future thoughts. I can’t emphasise how instant the positive impact was. I started showing up differently during the first session and created different outcomes the same day which felt like stress just melting away.
For much of my life and career, I have taken on the fixer role and yet here I was unable to fix my own problems. Katy uncovered a much deeper understanding of my fixing motivation, and in turn steered me in a way that let me create my own boundaries that sat true to my values. This freed me from the feeling of overwhelm. The immediate outcome was (and continues to be) life changing.
When my professional life already felt tough enough, I was faced with challenges from two teenage boys followed by a cancer diagnosis for my mother. There seemed to be a pattern of loss unfolding in my life, from losing my job, my children changing from boys to men and gradually losing my mother to cancer. I had reached a stage in my life and career where I no longer found fun or felt excited by life. I lacked hope for the future and could not understand why. In all this turmoil, Katy made sense. She helped me find peace and acceptance in the word ‘stop’. For the first time in my life ‘stop’ switched from a must not, to a must do and I gave myself permission to rest.
Sure, I had a lot on my plate, but Katy made me realise I could change the impact of what was happening. She taught me to reposition my thinking which in turn improved my actions. I found myself questioning my why for aspects of life that left me drained and unfulfilled. What would I prefer to do? The result was astounding, after 30 years I returned to my true love of abstract art, pattern and design. I am now exhibiting a full collection of acrylic abstracts at Manchester Art Fair next year. I have rediscovered my love for life and for the first time in 16 years my husband and I have attended concerts together and danced like we are twenty years old again.
Katy helped me realise I needed to stop, in order, to move forward in the right direction for me. I have stepped off that roundabout, and I am in a place I could not have imagined 6 months ago. I paint, I dance with my sons, I sing in the car, and I feel alive again. The painting has taught me that life is a series of layers, and some days we create beautiful layers filled with colour and joy, other days, they make no sense at all and look awful, but we keep building layer by layer and eventually we reach a moment where we shine and can hang on the wall loud and proud.
When everything around me felt it couldn’t get any worse, I took the decision to invest in ME. The sessions with Katy have been liberating and life enhancing. She taught me four fundamentals that I now live by; they have changed everything for the better. Working with Katy is the greatest investment you can ever make. If you are thinking about it just go ahead and do it. Your future self will thank you!